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So here’s the story.
The other day, I may have told a guy, my friend had taken a particular liking to him. (Just so you know, I am that friend who WILL always let the person know so as to speed things along just a little.)
So now that my friends’ love interest was made aware, maybe, just maybe we could get the ball rolling, the show on the road and the cookies in the oven (Okay, so I just made that one up, but who cares!)
You see, what “said” guy did was the exact opposite. The ball was now in HIS court. IF he were interested, then conversation between him and my friend would have set the tone for the future. If he wasn’t, then he could have gone his own way and made it clear that it just wasn’t going to happen.
I know I am not single, but this type of behaviour from the MEN of this era has become a pet peeve of mine. If you like the lady, let her know, If you don’t, LET HER KNOW. Don’t leave her hanging on the end of the line while YOU decide weather now is the time or now is not the time to pursue a relationship. Its silly and its RUDE! VERY RUDE!
Let me be honest, its MORE than a pet peeve of mine, as I’m sure you can tell! If that were the only occasion where I have seen a friend in limbo as a result of a guy who is not sure whether he is coming or going then that would be acceptable. But its not.
I had one friend ask a guy out for a coffee via text message so as to spare each party any kind of awkwardness just in case she had gotten a wrong “vibe” from him. But do you think she even got a reply back? EH NAH! Nothing! And to make matters worse, this guy had the audacity to text her as normal WITHOUT any mention of her DELIVERED text. So once again, it became that awkward thing where they both knew, the other one knew what had happened but yet, nobody was going to mention it so once again, we are stuck in that awkward place called “limbo.”
I wish I could say that was all, but its not. It gets worse. Another friend of mine, SEEMED to be getting the thumbs up from a guy. You know, when the guy sees the girl and they both go bright red for all the right reasons. It was looking positive you know! And then it happened! The responses became shorter and the interest waned, only thing is this guy hadn’t said ANYTHING to let my friend know that things had changed until once again, my friend was also put into that place called limbo!
Now I may just sound like another angry woman but the thing is, the guys don’t seem to realise what they do to all these beautiful women with all their mind games and tricks (yes it is a trick when you show interest but then run!)
Why cant men just be like women and say it like it is. You either are interested or you are not, its not the end of the world if you are and at least my girlfriends and other women alike can keep it moving.
Some men complain about being “friend zoned”, but at least you KNOW! Seriously, the guys need to pick it up! I am not one of those women that believes a guy should do all the chasing but neither do I think a women must do a all the chasing. I believe in friendship that can make the healthy transition into a relationship. What I am not a fan of however is when a guy seems to pursue a friendship, only to go all Casper on you when you initiate what looked as though was on the cards anyway.
The single men of today need to either take the plunged and build a friendship with the hope of a future or simply MOVE and stop wasting my friends time with their irrelevant and unnecessary questions that can come across as wanting more than just a “Hi” and “Bye” type of friendship!
I am not attacking all guys believe me! I know there are some great guys out there who are doing the right thing. But for all those who aren’t, how about you grow a pair, know what you want and STOP beating around the bush! If it isn’t what you want, then give somebody else the opportunity to build a friendship in hope of a future!
Keep it moving Dudes!xxx